So the therapist, her name is Ann. She gave me "homework". It's a bunch of sheet I'm supposed to read.....it starts out with a triangle, thoughts, actions, feelings. The idea is that if you change one the others will follow. Right? Makes sense!
Negative emotions create negative behavior.....then it goes to explain the whole " snowball" idea I have talked about that I'm great at creating in my head.
Then there is half a page I'm supposed to fill with "rewarding" activities......problem is I have a hard time thinking of the last time I did any of them.....
Oooooo setting attainable goals.....get the dishes done.....NOT make the kitchen immaculate!!
Low mood=low energy=few accomplishments=EVEN LOWER MOOD...... Tis is where I am trapped right now :(
Ooooo problem/things I would like to change.....in Family, Friends,Work, Lifestyle, finances, other..... Think I'm going to need some extra space for that ;)
I'm sure Ann knows what she is doing, but right now I wonder where this is going to go.
Why do I need this again? I just don't get it some days, well most day really......I don't want to be the person that needs this help. I just wanna be "normaal". How did I get here?
Have you ever thought about what triggers the hault in momentum? Because you have been in spaces where you're doing really well- you're "on a roll" getting things done, getting the house clean and organized and you're feeling great about it... but then something always seems to hault the progress and that's the end of "on a roll" and you lose motivation. This starts the cycle of low mood... low energy etc. I get it because I work the same way- it's all about inertia: An object in motion will stay in motion. An object not in motion requires force to put it in motion. Simple science ;)
ReplyDeleteSo again, the question is- can you find out what stops the momentum? Is it a bad mood? Is it having an extra thing put on your plate ("Mom, I need help with ____", or "Honey, I need you to make sure this specific shirt is washed an ironed" or even "Sister, can you dye my hair at exactly this time on this day??") or is it a distraction of some kind? Facebook or a certain TV show?
Just a thought... if you can figure out the trigger(s) maybe you can figure out a way to not let them hault the momentum
I have tried to figure out what stops the momentum.....but haven't figured out what stops it , or starts it really. No I know what states it, if I get started and if somebody(anybody) notices and comments, I'm more likely to continue on the project, positive affirmation.....
ReplyDeleteI think Steve has a theory on what stops it, but we haven't talked about it in a while.....